How to Become a Calm Warrior

lady-1822464_1920Our lives are stressful, hectic and very much unpredictable, thus overflowing with anxiety. We cope with that unfortunate status quo and attempt to manage our daily schedules efficiently. Some of us become more organized with time, some of us just take one day at the time and dive in into the frantic business weeks, hoping to survive the Monday to Friday routine. It is so easy to forget about our bodies and minds in the chaos of everyday life.

I have mentioned before that I take a self-care very seriously. I have been exercising regularly for at least 12 years. But in 2016, I made a conscious decision that this is not enough and I have to take it to the next level, adding mindfulness and kickboxing to my daily body-mind workouts. The results are great, and as I write it, I can honestly say, I am in the best shape of my life. I personally recommend the mindfulness practices to all of you. One of my favorite mobile apps is Calm, a simple mindfulness meditation application that brings clarity and peace of mind into your life. In business, meditation methodology and techniques used by employees and leaders may help them to achieve better organizational outcomes, reduce organizational risk, increase employee engagement & satisfaction and contribute to creating an environment of innovation.

As much as all of the above helps myself to live a better quality and happier life, I understand that meditation may not be a great fit to all. I completely get it. Many use the intellectual rationalization to reject practices such as mindfulness and judge them as something irrational, although it is worth to mention that the research backs it up.

So if you feel meditation is not for you (for now), what can help you in staying calm when the world is spinning around you?

It is all about a Circle of Control. We keep forgetting that we have the ability to control many things in our lives, but there are many which we can not and we should not try to. Control and Influence Model are also known as the Circle of Concern and Circle of Influence. This model described in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey. This simple model is for understanding those elements, situations, events and challenges of which you have total control over (The Circle of Control), influence over (The Circle of Influence) and the cases you have no influence over but are still concerned about (the Circle of Concern). Essentially the model tells you to stay focused on events where you have control and influence and not on events of which you have no control or influence but may still be concerned about.


…“Proactive people focus their efforts on their Circle of Influence. They work on the things they can do something about: health, children, problems at work. Reactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Concern, things over which they have little or no control: the national debt, terrorism, the weather. Gaining an awareness of the areas in which we expend our energies in is a giant step in becoming proactive.”

The bottom line is: do not be reactive and waste your time on the issues outside of your control. It is a huge waste of your energy and increases your anxiety level. If you care about your quality of life, please think how you can start owning your story, without blaming the external environment for all the failures, unhappiness and stagnation.  Try to shape it to your satisfaction. Become a calm warrior.



3 thoughts on “How to Become a Calm Warrior

  1. Luke Jones - Health Room says:

    Great stuff Monika, thanks for sharing! 🙂

    Like you I also enjoyed reading the ‘7 habits of highly effective people’ and I’ve taken a lot from that book too!

    I really like what you’re saying in this article. It can be easy to get so worried about things that we have absolutely no control over and it’s important to remind ourselves that we can’t change it, therefore not to waste our energies on it.

    Loving the content, keep doing what you’re doing 🙂

    PS – On a related note, I’m on the hunt for feedback for my new show The HERO Podcast! It’s all about creating healthy habits. My latest podcast with Derek Doepker might be of interest to you where we discussing making lasting changes. You can check it out (and maybe leave a short review if you like) here:


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